Recommended Reading



The Guide to Getting It On is “the best all-around sex guide in the world” I read this book for one of my first Human Sexuality classes and when they say “the most comprehensive sex guide in the world” that is without a doubt true! The anything and everything related to sex guide is here.

Erotique Noire is truly “of lasting value for all lovers of literature and the erotic, this is a glorious, groundbreaking celebration of black sensuality” This book includes works by Alice Walker, Ntozake Shange, and has erotic tales to entice black and non-black folks alike!


For Partnered Folks

“In the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today.” No therapist recommended reading for couples is complete without this book!

Really looking to build a strong foundation for your poly/non-monogamous relationship? “Can you love more than one person? Have multiple romantic partners, without jealousy or cheating? Absolutely! Polyamorous people have been paving the way, through trial and painful error. Now the new book More Than Two can help you find your own way.”

“What the heck is my partner thinking?” is a common refrain in romantic relationships, and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people’s minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts. Wired for Love is a complete insider’s guide to understanding your partner’s brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust.


For Individual Work

There is nair a person who can pick up You Can’t Keep A Good Woman Down and not find something within its pages that speak life into their strugggles. “A natural evolution from the earlier, much-acclaimed collection In Love & Trouble, these fourteen provocative and often humorous stories show
women oppressed but not defeated.These are hopeful stories about love, lust, fame, and cultural thievery, the delight of new lovers, and the rediscovery of old friends, affirmed even across self-imposed color lines.”

Every day we experience the uncertainty, risks, and emotional exposure that define what it means to be vulnerable or to dare greatly. Based on twelve years of pioneering research, Dr. Brené Brown dispels the cultural myth that vulnerability is weakness and argues that it is, in truth, our most accurate measure of courage. In Daring Greatly, Dr. Brown explains how vulnerability is both the core of difficult emotions like fear, grief, and disappointment, and the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, empathy, innovation, and creativity.

Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much has been cited as “the perfect gift for yourself or all the workaholics, rushaholics, and careaholics”. Despite the gendered title anyone can make great use of this book whether gender non-conforming, cis-male or trans*. This is a phenomenal daily meditation book I highly recommend.

“There is no one way to be transgender. Transgender and gender non-conforming people have many different ways of understanding their gender identities. Trans Bodies, Trans Selves is a revolutionary resource-a comprehensive, reader-friendly guide for transgender people, with each chapter written by transgender or genderqueer authors. Each chapter takes the reader through an important transgender issue, such as race, religion, employment, medical and surgical transition, mental health topics, relationships, sexuality, parenthood, arts and culture, and many more.”



Great Blogs

Ev-O!-lution is a social start up based in the Caribbean and was created to celebrate safe, guilt-free pleasure. They believe in a positive approach to sexuality, open communication, promotion of body-safe materials and ingredients, and individual empowerment through exploration.

Great Podcasts

Sex Is Medicine is a one hour radio talk show, that explores the connection between sexuality and spirituality, pleasure and personal growth, and the impact those have on the health and wellness of your body, mind, and spirit!

Pure Pop for Queer Lovers is a show on Radio Valencia. DJ Peach Thief offers a tantalizing mix of queer/trans storytelling and gooey pop gems.

The Heart is a narrative podcast started be Canadian sex workers on a community radio station that covers “the triumphs and terrors of human intimacy, the bliss and banality of being in love, and the wild diversity of the human heart.”

For Colleagues

The Association of Black Sexologists and Clinicians has a number of qualified and credentialed experts who offer their opinion about contemporary issues and challenges that face persons of African descent nationally. Our thought leaders write about a number of different topics including race, sexuality, gender, religion/spirituality, politics, media, parenting, etc.

The Peacock Course is the private practive building training for queer, trans* and social justice healers in the Bay Area.

Interested in becoming a sexologist or sex therapist? Check out this list! 6 Sexology Credentials You Need to Know About


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